Okay, I have one small (teeny tiny, really) confession to make. I never got around to buying or reading the book. Go ahead, repossess my Go-Getter Goody Bag RIGHT NOW!
I tried to find as much online info about this chapter as possible and what kept coming up was this:
"The Law of Win/Win says, let's not do it your way or my way; let's do it the best way."
...and this:
"For Win/Win to work it must be founded on strong personal character... Trust is the essence of Win/Win."
I know there was a bit of chuckling going on, myself included, when I pulled this law out of the hat. Those of you who know me well know that I like to win. Period. I like to be the best and I EXPECT to be the best at everything I do no matter what it is. It doesn't matter if it's something I've never done before or something I've done a hundred times before. "Second place is the first loser" was a motto I grew up with (mostly unspoken but present nonetheless). Talk about a lot of pressure! Anyway, I know this law has nothing to do with my childhood baggage or my irrational obsession with winning, I'm just stalling and trying to distract you from the fact that I didn't read the chapter...
Those two simple quotes which Google so graciously provided have really struck a chord with me. In addition to being insanely competitive I'm also a bit of a control freak - just a bit. It's very easy for me to fall into the "It's my way or the highway" or "My way is the only way" mentality. As I've gotten older I've tried to become more open-minded and more receptive to the idea that there is more than one way to go about things. Whether it's business or personal affairs, I've learned to let go, to delegate, to recognize that the perspective of someone else has value and what they have to offer is something important... and sometimes, that "someone else" may even have a better way than my way. Opening myself up like that has exposed me to new ways of thinking, new ways of learning, new ways of doing things. Sounds pretty Win/Win to me!
I really am going to try to come up with something more substantial to write about this law but for now this will have to do.
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I really like what you've written so far! "Let's do it the best way." Love it.
("My way or the highway." I think that's Winnie's (my dog) mantra. Maybe I should read this chapter to her.)
This chapter starts with the Golden Rule. Why is that the best rule ever? It works, all the time.
But, this is a paragraph from this chapter that meant something to me too.
"The essence of wellness in difficult relationships is to become an example for the other person. Keep communication lines open until the other person begins to realize that you genuinely want to resolve the issue in a way that is truly win/win for both. When we do this, we succeed in ways we never before imagined."
In other words, hang in there, sometimes these things take time.
Winnie and I have been communicating for almost 8 years.... I'm still hanging in there.
Mom, you are great! I love this. I'm getting excited to see what you post when it's your own wellness week!
You and Winnie... so funny.
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